The action begins at Track I where you have the opportunity to learn how thriving is directly related to how well you synchronize your personal and relational rhythms. Thriving is the visible sign of a well-synchronized life. Being unsynchronized will tire us out and reduce our energy level. Track One provides a solid dose of joy training combined with an introduction to many of the 19 brain skills. You will practice Immanuel and relational circuit training. Experience the skills to grow in Track One!
Your THRIVE teacher and facilitator will teach and illustrate how thriving is directly related to how well we synchronize internally and externally.
Monday – Belonging
Tuesday – Receiving and Giving
Wednesday – Recovery I
Thursday – Recovery II
Friday – Maturity
Saturday – Your Heart
Year one GROWTH principles and training can make people quite aware of the missing love and attachment in their lives. We purposely do not try to provide or create temporary bonds and relationships at THRIVE to fill this need - we want to strengthen real bonds so bring someone with you! Building joy can trigger pain if you are lonely.
People at an infant level of maturity or with very limited capacity to return to joy may have extreme difficulty with several of the exercises designed for THRIVE, and are advised not to come alone. We encourage you to bring a partner, spouse, co-worker, church brother or sister, prayer partner, spiritual family member, or someone you trust. Because THRIVE is based around affectionate fellowship and strengthening of bonds, you will glean more from THRIVEif you share the experience with someone you already share a bond with no matter how mature you are. Otherwise it can bring up many feelings that are hard to process alone.
Track I required reading (prior to the conference):
1) The Life Model by Frieson, Wilder, Bierling, Koepcke,
OR
The Belonging Study Guide by Coursey, Coursey & Khouri
(You will be required to show your completed study guide at registration in order to receive a certificate of attendance).
These materials are available through the Life Model Website
Now that you have experienced much joy along with one year’s worth of training, you are ready to tackle Track II. Here you learn how the painful failure to thrive impacts your life and the lives of your personal people. Failure to thrive means lives spent in pain, fleeing pain, or rigidly avoiding any risk of pain. This failure to thrive emerges from a badly developed and poorly trained control center. Recovery consists of identifying the breakdown in the growth process and repairing the disruptions. We will learn what happens when we fail to keep our personal and relational rhythms synchronized. Also, in Track II you will bolster your ability to employ the 19 skills. Each day, your THRIVE teacher and facilitator will instruct and demonstrate how the painful failure to thrive impacts our lives.
Monday – Dismembered Identity
Tuesday – Hopeless Reactive Immaturity
Wednesday – Continuing Distress and Desynchronization
Thursday – Pervasive Fear and Lack of Capacity
Friday – Painful and Meaningless Existence
Saturday – Application
Year two RECOVERY requires more capacity from participants. Each participant for year two will need experience with joy and have enough capacity to deal with unpleasant feelings like sadness, anger, fear, disgust, shame, and hopeless despair in moderate doses. We will teach a cohesive approach and introduce simple repair skills. Track II is for those who have previously experienced the training and joy practice at THRIVE Track I.
Participants generally maintain child or higher maturity, even though they may have remedial work to do with returning to joy from the big six emotions. This training is designed for bonded partners so be sure to bring a safe partner to practice with.
Track II required reading:
1) The Life Model by Frieson, Wilder, Bierling, Koepcke,
4) The Developing Mind and/or Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel (The Developing Mind can be a difficult read)
5) Basic THRIVE Skills, Mastering Joy and Rest
(NOTE! You will be required to show your completed Skill Guide in order to receive a certificate of attendance.)
Siegel books are available through www.amazon.com
The rest of these materials are available through the Life Model Website
Preparation Groups
Track II attendees will discuss what it is like them and their people to do for each basic emotion the brain knows. Six emotions in six days develop a powerfully clear sense of our true identity and how it still works when we are upset or suffering.
Track III - Identify the Five Levels of Pain the Brain Knows
By this time you are an expert and well versed in your nonverbal skills. Two years of training have you primed and ready for the next climb. You have been through both Tracks I and II so now you are up for a greater challenge. At Track III attendees learn how to clearly recognize and address the painful deficits that result from a desynchronized control center. Discover how to identify the visible and the hidden pain at each of the 4+ levels of the brain’s control center. You will enhance your nonverbal skills as well as learn how to distinguish specific pain at each of the five levels of the brain’s command center. At Track III you not only practice the 19 skills but you have the opportunity to train others. This type of training reinforces your ability to propagate essential life skills to your family and community.
This track is for individuals who function primarily at an adult level maturity or higher. In the past we designed THRIVE to prepare attendees for this level of training after two years of actively building joy, practicing return to joy skills with the 'big six' as well as complex emotions. Your THRIVE teacher and facilitator will teach mindsight, heartsight, and understanding the five levels of pain.
Track III required reading:
1) The Life Model by Frieson, Wilder, Bierling, Koepcke,
4) The Developing Mind and/or Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel (The Developing Mind can be a difficult read)
5) The Anxious Organization by Jeffrey A. Miller
6) Basic THRIVE Skills, Mastering Joy and Rest
7) Intermediate THRIVE Skills, Mastering Returning to Joy
(NOTE! You will be required to show your completed Skill Guide in order to participate in all training exercises or receive a certificate of attendance.)
Siegel books are available through www.amazon.com
Wilder materials and Skill Guides are available through the Life Model Website
Attention: A THRIVE Staff Member may call you to verify that you are prepared for the training that is ahead of you and confirm your capacity and baseline maturity. This telephone call is to ensure your THRIVE experience will be a blessing rather than overwhelming and/or too strenuous. We may check your resources as well.
Track IV Multilevel Synchronization – Diagnosis and Response
Track IV includes complex multilevel problems like addictions, organizational dysfunction, leadership failures, dissociation, marriage/family, blended families, narcissism, borderline, emotional healing ministry and more. Track IV advanced training is available for attendees without attending the first three years of capacity training. You will be able to learn direct applications of emotional capacity building. A lack of right hemisphere emotional capacity causes people to lose their internal synchronization and do foolish things, waste energy, and become anxious, fearful, resistant, and evasive. At Track IV we assume all participants know and can contribute to the training material from their own experience in ministry. Each year will be something new and fresh for Track IV attendees! 2010 is on applying these skills in your Marriage. Don't miss this one!
THRIVE teaches ways that free us from the fears and emotional struggles that waste so much of our time and resources, producing mature followers of Jesus who are full of His joy, peace and character strength. This time of intensive study and application will let individuals and leaders learn to develop the capacities of their nervous systems and those of the people in their family, church and community.
Required reading for 2010 Marriage Retreat Track IV::
The Life Model by Frieson, Wilder, Bierling, Koepcke,
Living with Men by Jim Wilder
Materials are available through the Life Model Website